Gal. 6:2 tells us: Go on carrying the burdens of one another,
and thus fulfill the law of the (Divine Light/) Christ.
Each of us can contribute to
the well-being and growth of those around us, and beyond. How do we do accomplish this responsibility? We do this by striving to be, at all times, a
source of encouragement and spiritual refreshment to others.
So, then, let us pursue the things making for peace
and the things that are upbuilding to one another. Rom. 14:19 Above
all things, have intense love for one another, because love covers a multitude
of sins. Be hospitable to one another
without grumbling. In proportion as each
one has received a gift, use it in ministering to one another as fine stewards
of God’s undeserved kindness expressed in various ways. 1 Peter 4: 8-10
Let us always be ready and
willing to assist others. Let us share
as much as we can, as circumstances allow.
Let us be cheerful givers.
2 Corinthians
9:6-7 reminds us: But as to
this, he that sows sparingly will also reap sparingly; and he that sows
bountifully will also reap bountifully. Let each one do just as he has resolved
in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful
giver.
It is up to each us to do the
work to connect with others; no one can do it for us. Sometimes this responsibility to our brothers
and sisters can feel overwhelming, especially when fulfilling this
responsibility interferes with our own wants and/or needs.
When this happens, let us remember
that we are never really alone; the Creator/God, the
Divine Light/Jesus and other Spirits are with us.
Let
us take our problems to the Creator/God.
Just as it is up to each us to do the work to connect with others, it is
up to each of us to make the connection with the Creator/God. Sometimes we allow ourselves to get so
disconnected and frazzled that we can not reconnect. The Creator/God knows this and recommends
having a support system; it is
vital to our success. Success in most
endeavors is a team effort, not a solo performance.
Proverbs 15:22 states: There is a frustrating of plans where there
is no confidential talk, but in the multitude of counselors there is
accomplishment.
A
support system is a network of people who
interact and remain in informal communication for mutual assistance; members of the network provide practical, emotional and/or
spiritual support which sustains other members in their survival and
growth, on an as needed basis.
Successful support systems
typically consist of a minimum of 3 people.
There are 2 main, beneficial, reasons for this:
1.
No one is
available 24/7; the more people in our support system, the better chance we
have of receiving the assistance we perceive we need. We will not always be
there to shield others from life’s challenges.
2.
When we stay
focused on the goal of teaching another to stand on his/her own two feet, we
are given the opportunity to help empower them.
To
help us stay focused on this goal, we can ask ourselves the following questions:
1.
What can the
person asking for help reasonably do on their own?
2.
Are there things
we (the support system) are doing for this person, that they could do for
themselves? If yes, work with the
person until sure that they can handle the responsibility on their own.
3.
How much can each
of us reasonably assist this person?
4.
What are our own
personal boundaries?
5.
What are our
support system group boundaries?
6.
What are the
consequences to individual group members, the group at large and to the other
person if the boundaries are not respected? Outline potential consequences of
actions: good and bad. In a very covert
way, accepting the consequences of our actions helps us learn to rely on
support only when necessary. A good
support person will not support a brother or sister in staying stuck.
For each one
will carry his own load. Galatians
6:5
At times, we all need support. Let us never hesitate to accept help when
struggling to cope. Keep in mind,
however, that if we do not trust a person, they really have no place in our
support system. People in our support
system are the people, who, over time, get to know us; the real us. In an effort to receive assistance, we often
find ourselves sharing dis-harmonious/dis-eased thoughts and/or gut-wrenching
emotions. We must be able to trust those
with whom we open up to and share our real “earthly” selves with.
If a support person offers
suggestions or options to assist us, we may choose to ignore them … If 2 support
people tell us the same thing, it is usually in our best interest to listen …
If 3 or more support people tell us the same thing, it is in our best interest
to quit whining and take action by following or trying any suggestions or options
given.
Not all options or suggestions
given, will work. This does not mean
that we should not do the footwork and try to implement them though. When we shoot them down automatically, we disrespect
and thereby abuse one or more members of our support system. Let us be willing to do whatever it takes to
move forward.
Let us always accept any
support we receive, with appreciation.
Let us never be demanding when asking others to help us handle our
problems. Let us be reasonable in how much of their time and attention we
expect them to give us. Let us remember
that our brothers and/or sisters may be unable to meet our needs.
When this happens, let us continue to take
our problems to the Creator/God and have faith that the Creator/God will
sustain us in whatever trials we may face.