Sunday, August 26, 2012
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Edifying Communication
To communicate is a form of sharing. The spirit of our inter-relational existence, can be found in the ways in which we communicate; the world is both dependent on and affected by communication. The way we speak and the words we choose have a tremendous effect upon our spirit.
When we speak, we give life to our thoughts; whenever we speak our thoughts out loud, the vibrational level of our thoughts change. It’s better to say nothing at all, than to say something negative. Some commonly used negative words like: But, Try, If, Might, Would Have, Should Have, Could Have, Can't and Don't, negate our ability to successfully be our “Highest Selves,” and affect the Higher Selves of those we speak to.
The goal of effective communication, is to share our message while edifying/building others up, not tearing them apart. Unfortunately, most of us tend to think, and thereby communicate our own interests, in an effort to get others to see things our way, rather than what might be in the best interest of those with whom we are communicating.
If we wish to lift/raise others with the words we use when communicating, our words need to be pleasant and peaceful, even if we are not in agreement with our listener; it is important to remain respectful! Our words will serve us best if we do not come across as being too wise, too good and/or too great.
Anyone who has ever written newspaper copy knows the importance of communicating just the Who, What, When, Where and Why of their message.
To be an effective communicator and get our point across without misunderstanding and confusion, it is best if we do not communicate too much information, too fast, or if our words are not disorganized or too complex.
“I keep six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.”
(Rudyard Kipling, from "The Elephant's Child" in Just So Stories )
Words which edify:
• instruct by providing new information whichs helps remove ignorance,
• counsel those in trouble/danger to overcome their difficulties,
• comfort by imparting consolation, and/or
• foster truthful discussion.
Regardless of whether we are engaged in instruction, counseling, providing comfort or truthful discussion, words that come from the heart are usually useful and edifying.
Edifying words are:
• pleasant
• courteous
• gracious
• respectful
• loving
• truthful
• kind
• encouraging
• informative
• harmonious
• profitable for all involved parties
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29
Non-Edifying words are:
• foul/abusive
• abrasive
• harmful to the other person/people
• offensive
• degrading
• disrespectful
• demoralizing
• character assassinators
• accusatory/blaming
• fault-finding
• angry
• prideful
• arrogant
• false
“But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.” Colossians 3:8
It is best if all parts of ourselves work in balance and harmony. When the speech of our mind is in disagreement with the speech of our heart, the words that come out of our mouth are false; they run contrary to edification; they do not shine the light of truth on anyone’s mind.
Words that are not pleasant to others, are destructive to the spirit of both the “listener” and the “speaker.” Effective communication can improve our inter-relations by increasing intimacy, trust and support; likewise, non-effective communication can weaken bonds, create mistrust and breed contempt.
We cannot edify anyone when we are full of anger, contentious and/or quarrelsome!
“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” Romans 14:19
So it is, sealed in trust, faith and truth, in the Sacred Divine Light.
Amen
Sunday, August 12, 2012
The Power of Words
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“From the fruit of a man's mouth he enjoys good, But the desire of the treacherous is violence.” Proverbs 13:2
Negative thoughts don’t need to become negative words. Whenever we speak our thoughts out loud, the vibrational level of our thoughts change.
An interesting experimental study, much like Masaru Emoto’s work with water crystals, gives visual proof of the power and impact of our words. This particular study, by Doreen and Grant Virtue, found then whenever spiritual or loving positive words were spoken, pleasant, round shapes were produced on a graph, and rose above the middle base line. Likewise, whenever negative words were spoken, sharp, pointy, angular shapes were produced on a graph, and fell below the middle base line. This experimental study provides additional preliminary proof that someone who talks negatively, does indeed, have an energetically “sharp tongue.”
When we speak, we give life to our thoughts. Our words become self-fulfilling prophecies; we prophesize our future by the words we speak in the present. We are the co-creators of our own experiences; we receive what we speak. It’s better to say nothing at all, than to say something negative.
“The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; The one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.” Proverbs 13:3
Here’s a short list of some commonly used negative words, which when used, negate our ability to successfully be our “highest selves.”
The way we speak and the words we choose have a tremendous effect upon our spirit.
Each word you speak has an energetic resonance that attracts its equivalent and creates a form that corresponds to its vibration.
“The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; The one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.” Proverbs 13:3
Most of us have a running internal dialogue with ourselves; our internal voices give us direction. Many psychologists believe that it takes up to seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. We reinforce our programming with our internal dialogue. We can use our words to curse our life; we can use our words to bless our life.“From the fruit of a man's mouth he enjoys good, But the desire of the treacherous is violence.” Proverbs 13:2
Negative thoughts don’t need to become negative words. Whenever we speak our thoughts out loud, the vibrational level of our thoughts change.
An interesting experimental study, much like Masaru Emoto’s work with water crystals, gives visual proof of the power and impact of our words. This particular study, by Doreen and Grant Virtue, found then whenever spiritual or loving positive words were spoken, pleasant, round shapes were produced on a graph, and rose above the middle base line. Likewise, whenever negative words were spoken, sharp, pointy, angular shapes were produced on a graph, and fell below the middle base line. This experimental study provides additional preliminary proof that someone who talks negatively, does indeed, have an energetically “sharp tongue.”
When we speak, we give life to our thoughts. Our words become self-fulfilling prophecies; we prophesize our future by the words we speak in the present. We are the co-creators of our own experiences; we receive what we speak. It’s better to say nothing at all, than to say something negative.
“The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; The one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.” Proverbs 13:3
Here’s a short list of some commonly used negative words, which when used, negate our ability to successfully be our “highest selves.”
But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Try: Presupposes failure. If we "try" to do something, we give our unconscious mind permission not to succeed. We will reap many benefits by removing the word "try" from our vocabulary.
If: Presupposes that we may not.
Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener..
Would Have: draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Should Have: draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Could Have: draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Can't/Don't: forces listeners to focus on the opposite of what we say. (cew 12:37
So it is, sealed in trust, faith and truth, in the Sacred Divine Light.
Amen
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